"When I was a young coach I used to say, "Treat everybody alike." That's bull. Treat everybody fairly."
~ Bear Bryant ~
Yesterday, Aren came bursting through the door declaring, "I hate school". He then continued in a very whiny voice which at first was difficult to understand, "I had to do math at recess". And, "it was hard"; "I don't understand". I asked him why he was made to do the work at recess and he told me because he got it wrong during class time. My son's upset made me feel very upset, in fact, I felt angry about it. This is the 2nd time this school term, my son was made to do make up work at recess. And, today was the 2nd time I requested for the teacher to stop this practice. This is another example among many where this district disregards the parents input regarding the education of their child.
Aren feels punished and singled out even if he's working in a small group when other kids are having fun at recess while he isn't. Math is an area of significant weakness for my son. By making him do the work when he rather run and play will only instill resentment. The resentment will potentially lead him to being turned off and he will tune out completely from learning it.
My son has PDD-NOS and the disability affects his short term memory. Last night at dinner, Aren asked "what day is it". I know that sometimes this is an issue for him so I ask him to tell me "what was yesterday?" He tried to remember but couldn't. Aren wanted to know if it was Friday. My son is allowed to buy ice cream on Fridays which he never forgets. When it comes to sweets and desserts, Aren is first in line. So I asked him, "did you have ice cream today?" Of course, he said no because that is definitely something he would remember. As much as I tried to get him to recall, it was challenging for him. We finally told him, it's Wednesday. This morning, Aren did it again. He asked, "what is today?" Although he was told just last night, it was Wednesday, he couldn't tell me that today is Thursday.
The memory lapses are splintered which is typical to his abilities and disabilities. There are days when I use deductive reasoning with him, he'll arrive at the answer on his own. And, then there are other days like yesterday and today, where he struggles to get it right.
"The existence of forgetting has never been proved: We only know that some things don't come to mind when we want them." ~ Friedrich Nietzsche ~